The Humble Retreat is hosting a mindfulness workshop throughout December welcoming people of all backgrounds to come together to connect and tune in to the present. The workshop takes guests through mindfulness activities allowing you to take joy in simple things, share gratitude, honour self love and connect with like minded people. The Humble Day Retreat is a beautiful opportunity to give yourself time to allow yourself to restore, explore and reset. It doesn’t matter if you are new to mindfulness, yoga or meditation. It will be a pleasure to host you and you will receive a very warm welcome. Allow yourself this time for you!
The next Mindfulness Workshops are being hosted in Binfield, Berkshire (exact location TBC)
4th December 6pm – 8pm
11th December 6pm – 8pm
18th December 6pm – 8pm
To book your place please email firstname.lastname@example.org
This month my focus for The Humble Retreat is to connect with charities specialising in mental health. I want to explore opportunities for collaborative projects where I can offer my retreats to a wider network of people. After every Humble Retreat I feel energised and determined to broaden the awareness of how The Humble Retreat can help individuals. Feedback from past guests reminds me of how powerful The Humble Retreat is. It is a weekend for everyone.
Last month marked a year’s anniversary of The Humble Retreat idea being born! It was a year ago in May when I was mindfully walking around the UK with my tent and a few belongings to seek peace and stillness. As I was walking alone up the Welsh mountain of Snowdonia the vision of The Humble Retreat came to me. It was so clear and so profound that as soon as I got back into signal I asked my brother to purchase the domain name for my website and I started working on it straight away.
It’s been a momentous year of hosting retreats and creating a beautiful space with my mum for others to come and find peace. It has been an incredible added bonus to meet such inspiring people who have joined me for The Humble Retreat weekend. Every single person has taught me something about the myself, the world and the overwhelming love and compassion we as humans can truly show towards one another. It’s been a joy and I know that this will continue with every retreat.
To celebrate this milestone I am offering a Happy Hour for anyone who would like to spend an hour with me reconnecting, refocussing and restoring. I can host the Happy Hour via telephone or online video call. For those of you in the Berkshire area I can also host a face to face Happy Hour.
During the Happy Hour we can look at a whole range of areas to help you reach a peaceful and mindful state of mind.
We can explore areas you’d like to look at as well as any of the following areas I can guide you in:
You can order your Happy Hour HERE. Once you’ve ordered I will contact you to arrange a convenient Happy Hour date and time with you. This offer is only available for a month!
We go through various transitions (big and small) in our life time. For me a big transitional year took place for me at the end of 2016 beginning of 2017. I quit my sensible job. I broke up with a man I said yes to marrying. I left London (my home for 7 years). I felt totally lost and broken. I asked myself what I wanted in that particular moment and the answer was to spend time alone and away from the real world. So I took myself travelling around the UK with my tent and some belongings. I wanted to reconnect with myself and allow myself time to heal.
How many times do you ask yourself the question “what do I want?”. Often we are too busy or too distracted by this world that we live in and we forget to truly stop still and enquire deep within.
And perhaps if we were to ask ourselves what it is we want – we might not actually know the answer.
For me, it was only until I took myself walking, camping and adventuring around the UK that I was truly able to find out what I wanted. The noise quietened and I could finally hear myself think. I could suddenly visualise with crystal clear vision my desires in life and what was important to me.
Taking time for yourself to find out what you want is so important. By doing this you are telling yourself AND the universe exactly what it is that will bring you happiness/freedom/stability or whatever it is you are after.
But if you do not know the answer, how can you be sure that your are living to your fullest potential?
Sometimes it can be scary to answer ourselves honestly as the truth in answering becomes something you then have to take responsibility for and action.
My encouragement to you would be to feel the fear and do it anyway.
I’ve put together a mindful exercise to help you get to the foundations of what you want from any particular situation.
Time to find out
Take a moment to find a quiet space and a comfortable seat. You’ll need a pen and piece of paper for this exercise. I would advise that you switch your mobile phone to aeroplane mode too.
Now before you begin the writing exercise just take 2 minutes to be completely silent and still. Use your phone’s alarm to alert you to 2 minutes, if you need to.
During this 2 minutes of silence let thoughts come and go and try not to drift off with any one particular thought. If you do find yourself drifting just imagine that each thought is a cloud and that each cloud is moving by one by one and then evaporating into the air. Concentrate on your breath and just enjoy this 2 minutes of peace and stillness.
When you arrive back come to your piece of paper and go through the following questions to help you gain clarity of what it is you exactly want from a current situation you are finding challenging.
Write down clearly the exact challenge you are facing at the moment.
Write down in bullet points all the reason this particular challenge is causing you to feel stuck, empty or unclear about what it is you want.
Read those bullet points out loud and observe how you feel when you do so.
Use a word to describe that feeling.
Focus on the challenge and write down how you visualise an ideal resolution.
Write down in bullet points all the actions you need to take to get to that resolution.
Read those bullet points out loud and observe how you feel when you do so.
Use a word to describe that feeling.
Clear your mind. Take 2 minutes to come back to silence and stillness.
Come back to the original challenge. Out loud ask yourself “What do I want”. Be precise and detailed in answering this question. Don’t hold back. Be as descriptive as possible in your answer this question so that you create as much clarity for yourself as possible.
Now…what are you waiting for?
It’s common for us as humans to do what other people want or to do things that we think other people want us to do. In situations of overwhelm or worry – come back to the questions “What do I want?”. Ask yourself out loud and don’t hold back when answering. We often quieten down our true desires for many decisions we make. Put yourself first and ask yourself what it is you truly want. You have had the answers all along!
A sudden lack of motivation when you have been so enthusiastic or focussed on something can be a huge drain in energy. It’s common to be ridden with resistance, self sabotage followed by guilt.
Going through a wave of feeling demotivated can be an incredibly positive and powerful thing if you choose it to be. When we feel unmotivated to do something we have set out to do we either force ourselves to push through (and generally feel better for it) or we completely quit and wallow in our failure. But it must never be seen as a failure. In fact it is just a moment to reassess what the result of the goal or focus truly means to us.
Feeling demotivated allows us time to get to know ourselves and our thought patterns and processes even better. We are offered a stillness in time to just stop, breathe and work out what lead to our feelings of resistance. Through a time of demotivation we can also then re locate the sparkle and form steps to either get back on track or find an alternative route, when the time is right for you to do so!
Here is an exercise including some questions to ask yourself when you are feeling demotivated or resistant towards achieving something you have set out to do or a focus you currently have. Answer the questions openly and honestly and write them down freely so that you can clearly see the root cause of your demotivation.
What goal or focus are you currently feeling demotivated about?
How important is this goal or focus to you?
Make a list of bullet points including all the triggers you can acknowledge that are making you feel demotivated.
From this list strike out with a pen all the triggers that you know you can finally accept and forget about. Perhaps try this mantra as you do so: “ I acknowledge that this had an impact on my current state of mind. I accept it fully and can now forget this.”
If there are any triggers remaining in your list ask yourself why you are unable to accept and forget those.
Come back to the goal or focus that you are currently feeling demotivated about and ask yourself how you will feel when you finally achieve this.
What does achieving that goal or focus look like to you?
Write down a list of bullet points of all the feelings that you hope to feel as a result of achieving this goal or focus.
Will it be easy to achieve your goal or focus?
Is there anything you are afraid of if you don’t achieve this goal or focus. And does that really matter?
If you are open and honest when going through this exercise you can truly understand the reasons behind your lack of motivation. You will also be able to understand whether the remedy is a case of just accepting the triggers and getting back on track or whether the outcome of your goal or focus is perhaps not as important to you as you originally thought. Perhaps the goal or focus needs to be re-considered or tweaked?
When feelings of disappointment or failure start to creep in which are common feelings during demotivation remember to always be kind to yourself and know that those feelings will eventually pass. Take the time to allow yourself to retreat, reset and realign.
January is a funny time. There’s often a feeling of a come down after the Christmas hype. Purse strings are tight due to the excess spent in December. “Restraints” tend to come into action as we try to right our wrongs from the previous year…with fad dies, alcohol detoxes and strict goals. And to top it all off…the weather can be pretty bleak. So all in all, January can harbour some pretty low times.
It really doesn’t need to be this way.
For me, January has always been one of my favourite times of the year. A fresh start. A new leaf. A different beginning. The future of the year is there ahead of me to be lived and discovered. The excitement of the unknown is palpable. And the speed in which every year goes by, is just gearing itself up.
This blog provides a couple of helpful exercises to help you take in ALL of 2018 – one step at a time. You will need some paper and a pen 15 minutes to an hour (depending on the detail you want to go into!) and an open mind.
Let’s first look at last year.
Sit comfortably, close your eyes and focus on your breath. Just take a few moments to feel and acknowledge your emotions towards last year. Are there any emotions coming up? What do those feel like? There’s no rush. Open your eyes and write down in one word or in as many words as you like how you would sum up last year.
Now let’s look at one of your successes from last year. Think about a moment in 2017 you were really happy with. A particular moment in time you were really proud of yourself. It doesn’t matter how big or small this success appears to be to you or to others. What matters is how significant this moment feels to you. What is that moment?
For me the moment I was most proud of myself in 2017 was when I realised how detached from diets, calories and restriction of food had finally become for me. It’s as if my authentic appetite and true body make up made it’s way back to me, after all these years. This was a very big moment and huge step in my journey to recovery with an eating disorder.
Now back to you. Once you have thought about your biggest success in 2017, take time to answer the following questions…
How do you feel about that success?
What steps did you take to achieve that success?
What are the things you most grateful for as a result of this success.
Reflecting on successful moments in your life and understanding how you got there will remind you of just how far you have come in a process. Showing an abundance of gratitude whilst you reflect allows your mind to naturally reboot into a positive mental attitude towards yourself and your many achievements in your life, no matter how big or small.
Now take time to think about the year ahead. Of course no one can predict what the future holds and the wonderful thing about life is that the future is completely unwritten. How amazing is that.
Setting intentions is a way of focusing our energy on a successful outcome or achievement. It’s a way of living our life in a mindful way. Mindfully reminding ourselves of our intentions in everything we do.
For example, for the year ahead my intentions are in alignment with my core values. I would like to apply my intention to every aspect of my life:
“to show people compassion love and kindness, whatever their journey, behaviour, background, demeanour or make up might be.”
We are all human and we all deserve this respect, even if it is not reciprocated. I will remind myself of my intention during any dilemma, challenge intention and decision that 2018 has to bring for me.
Now back to you. Once you have come to a decision on your intentions for 2018, focus on just one and take time to answer the following questions.
Why do have you chosen this intention?
What steps will you take to focus and live by this intention.
What will you tell yourself if you temporarily lose sight of your intention?
What are the things you will be most grateful for if you succeed with living 2018 through your intention?
Once you have finished writing down your reflections and intentions and if you feel comfortable to do so, share your thoughts with someone close to you or just simply read what you have written out loud to yourself. Make your intentions a reality and take one step at a time in living 2018 the way you choose to live it.
I’m thrilled to be launching The Humble DAY Retreat in January. This is for anyone who perhaps can’t yet commit to a FULL Humble Retreat weekend. It’s also a wonderful opportunity for anyone wanting to finding out more about mindfulness with a gentle introduction and within a peaceful and calming environment.
The Humble Day Retreat is mindfulness workshop in Crowthorne (Berkshire) welcoming people of all backgrounds to come together to connect and tune in to the present. The day offers humbling mindfulness activities allowing you to take joy in simple things, share gratitude, honour self love and connect with like minded people. This day will encourage you to restore, explore and reset.
It doesn’t matter if you are new to mindfulness, yoga or meditation. It will be a pleasure to welcome you and you will receive a very warm welcome. Allow yourself this time for you!
You’re hearing the word more and more. You might even see it cropping up in your work space. You’ve read about mindfulness links to mental health. But you’re still asking yourself what on earth is mindfulness? And how can I practise it?
Mindfulness is all around us in every breath we take. It’s up to us to wake up and acknowledge it.
Mindfulness is the complete awareness of any present moment. It’s the observation of feelings in each moment and the positivity, energy and calmness created within us as a result.
You may well be mindfully reading this article right now. Your thoughts are completely engrossed and your mind is actively present in every word read. If that is the case I urge you to really enjoy that feeling.
There may be some parts of your life where you might already be practising mindfulness perfectly, without knowing. And perhaps there are other parts of your life where mindfulness is so lacking that it is of no surprise that you are seeking to fill “the void”.
The trick is to acknowledge and find joy in every moment in existence. It really is that simple.
Let’s take an everyday example.
Commuting to the hustle of “work” is something that you are probably doing most days. It comes with challenges no doubt. The focus tends to be on the arrival and the stresses that come along with the journey: traffic, late trains, moody commuters, invasion of space on a crowded train…the list could be endless.
The focus on those challenges doesn’t have to be this way. Even in the worst of commutes.
You are either getting a train, cycling, driving or walking to work. Let’s break down each of these journeys whilst I share mindfulness exercises for you to acknowledge or even practise during your next commute.
Trains can be late. People can be moody. Crowds can be big.
But you are still you and you don’t need to get sucked into the low vibrations of external factors that you cannot change.
In fact by mindfully radiating a positive energy you will naturally bring a positive impact to those commuters around you. You could be responsible for creating a positive energy in a “doom and gloom” carriage and therefore allow others to absorb your positive energy for their day too. This will naturally act as a domino effect and the people in your carriage will carry those good vibes to people they then meet during their day!
Some simple and mindful ways of passing on a positive energy to fellow commuters would be to:
Smile at fellow commuters
Offer a seat to a fellow commuter
Let fellow commuters get onto the train before you
Hold the door for fellow commuters
Thank the train guards as you leave the station
Accept the fact that trains will from time to time be late or even cancelled and be ok with that
Leave a post-it note on a seat, with a positive message or thought for the day for a stranger
Write 5 things that you are grateful for in that moment during your morning commute
Share those 5 things with a stranger you are sat opposite
Enjoy the time spent on the train and acknowledge it as time for you ahead of any noise in the day that might allow your mind to otherwise wander
Acknowledge your breath during your commute. What does it feel like? Is it fast? Slow? Shallow? Deep? Just observe and breathe and enjoy attaching no judgement.
Your train commute can be a positive pocket of energy for your day and others around you. Take joy in that responsibility and observe the spirits of those around you lift.
It can be difficult not to get outraged or feel anxious as a result of inconsiderate driving from other motorists on the road. Remember that you are in control of those feelings of overwhelm, annoyance or stress in the car.
When you get into the car ahead of your commute try to refrain from turning on any music. Music or the radio can act as an immediate distraction. Spend a few moments acknowledging how your body and mind feels whilst you are sat in the car in silence.
Be aware of your breath. Just observe what it feels like and how it sounds.
As you start your journey bring your attention to the physical experience of driving. Acknowledge what it feels like to sit in the seat, bring your attention to what the steering wheel feels like in your hands and what it feels like for your feet making adjustments on the pedals.
Is there any tension in your body? Are your shoulders relaxed or hunched? Is your jaw clenched or soft? Perhaps your neck needs a gentle roll to get rid of some tightness.
Your mind will wander. And when it does it is your role to gently bring your attention back to the moment. Bring awareness to your surroundings as you drive and notice things on the road as you make your journey. Acknowledge sounds, cars and the environment you are driving through.
Try and take deep breaths at every red light. Create a ritual for breathing and acknowledging your breath as your drive.
Take joy in this time as you focus on your feelings during each driving experience.
I’ve always taken cycling as my commuting option. My reasons for this are so that I can be outside in the fresh air and so that I can acknowledge the sunrises and sunsets in all their glory. I also love cycling to and from work to enjoy the feeling of all weather conditions – come rain or shine. It feels particularly invigorating to arrive home from a cycle commute after a torrential downpour.
I regularly practise mindfulness on my commuting rides. I shall explain how.
At the moment I cycle 32 miles a day (3 x a week) to and from a little cafe where I teach yoga and serve hot drinks and slices of vegan cakes to locals. The moment I wake up on a day I have a cycle commute a common thought is “oh gosh, those horrible hills – perhaps I can get a lift.”
Through mindfulness I acknowledge those feeling of resistance towards my ride and I observe my emotions that are attached to those thoughts. Gently, I reason with myself by taking a step at a time. Those individual steps to riding look like this:
I brush my teeth in joy and know that I have all this time ahead of my cycle to gear my mind up mentally
I wash my face with hot water and feel fresh and energised enjoying the powerful feeling of water against my skin
I put on a clean set of lycra for a comfy ride and acknowledge how good it is to feel snug and warm in the freshest of air
I fill up my water bottle and notice how refreshing it tastes now and during my cycle commute
I acknowledge my breath and enjoy the sensation of that very moment
I sit on my bike and start pedalling acknowledging as I click into my pedals and wake up my legs through the motion of my push and pull
I take an easy pace and enjoy the fact I am free to ride and move
I breathe during the uphills and know that I will at some point reach the the top. There is no rush
I feel invigorated on the downhills as I let the wheels roll naturally and take in the beautiful scenery of my route
I observe the incredible wildlife: deer, rabbits, birds of prey, squirrels, pheasants, foxes and I am simply awe bound by their natural habituals
I arrive safely at my destination (a little hot!) and I feel elated for the rest of the day. I made it!
Of course it’s easy for me to get distracted on my bike by mental challenges: impatient motorists, intimidating drivers, big lorries, fast cars, big hills, tired legs, flies accidentally swallowed, acorn showers. But I know that after each cycle commute I feel joy post ride and I know that every new challenge is just another test to keep me mindful and in each moment as it arrives.
Walking is probably a more natural way of practising mindfulness. There are less distractions in terms of actions and the momentum of placing one foot after another is so simple. And yet perhaps as we walk our mind can wander quicker than our steps.
By practising mindfulness as we walk we can slow down those thoughts and bring our attention to our physical being in that very moment.
Here are a few essential ways to become more mindful when you walk to work:
Put your phone away. No music. No texting. No talking. Your phone is only a distraction from what is happening around you and within you during your walk
If you are walking to work don’t focus on work until you arrive at work. Try to stop guessing what your day at work with bring. Just focus on each step you make during your walk
Acknowledge your surroundings. Are there beautiful trees? Gorgeous colours? Birds singing? People running? Dogs playing? Cars tooting? Take joy in your surroundings. Even the sky can be a mindful focus. What colours can you see? What smells are you experiencing?
How do your feet feel as you walk? From heel to toe feel the ground beneath your feet and acknowledge the earth that supports you.
Are you walking briskly? Or slowly?
Is there any tenseness in your body? Breathe into that area and feel yourself relax into the natural rhythm of your walking style
Enjoy the movement of your legs and the relaxation of your arms swinging by your side
Arrive into the motion and feeling of your walking. Acknowledge the clarity of your mind and if your thoughts wander (which they will) – simply bring them back to the feeling of your walking motion. Enjoy.
Mindfulness doesn’t have to be complicated. It doesn’t have to be this out of reach ideology that only yogis or spiritual gurus can achieve. Mindfulness is for everyone. It is simple. It is pure. It is you. It is me.
“Mind the gap” London underground says when you alight a train. Next time, really do mind that gap and observe yourself as you do so.
It’s crazy to think that a week ago today, I had just finished hosting The Humble Retreat. My mum (who had come to cook for the weekend) and I had packed up the car and were enroute home. It was my first ever weekend hosting and creating a safe space for guests to discover and connect with gentle yoga, beautiful walking, mindfulness activities, wholesome homemade food and each other.
Ever since I set up The Humble Retreat, two months ago, I have known that this is exactly what I am meant to be doing in my life, right now. It’s that feeling we get when we know that something is unshakeably right. There is no doubt, worry or concern. Everything is just as it is meant to be.
I haven’t been worried about who will or won’t be coming to The Humble Retreat or concerned over bookings or lack of them. I have so much conviction in The Humble Retreat that I know that those who decide to join me for a weekend will join me when the time is right for them.
If you think you are ready to experience The Humble Retreat, the nurturing and healing environment can leave you feeling uplifted and at peace with so much in your life.
That’s exactly what happened The Humble Retreat in August. It was wonderful to observe. From start to finish The Humble Retreat evolved beautifully into everything and more that I had hoped it to be.
Seven guests joined me for The Humble Retreat in August. They entered the bunkhouse on a rather rainy and dark Friday evening. As we all sat down at the kitchen table ready to start the weekend (and the unknown!) I immediately warmed to them all. This was a beautiful group.
How I admired each guest for being at peace and at ease with the humble accommodation, lack of internet, sharing rooms with people they had only just met, whilst allowing strangers (soon to be friends) in on their life journey. It was extremely humbling to observe how the group connected and were at such ease with one another.
It can be very difficult to switch off from the noise and distraction in our everyday life so having individuals come together simply to be was just wonderful.
After settling in at the bunkhouse and the new surroundings everyone tucked into home made soup with bread and finished off their light supper with some carrot cake made by my dear mum. After introductions and sharing we all made it eagerly to bed by 9:30pm. It’s amazing how the fresh air (and some travelling time!) can send you off to bed early.
The next morning, after showers and a morning brew the humble retreaters and I trundled on down to the village hall which is a beautiful space just 5 minutes walk away from the bunkhouse. The village hall is perfectly located, nestled at the foot of the Shropshire hills. It’s a wonderful space for gentle yoga.
Gentle yoga is a perfect introduction to anyone who has never practised yoga before. There are no strenuous moves and it does not turn into a sweaty class. It’s a lovely relaxing class and encourages mindfulness whilst always coming back to the breath.
A big goal of mine at The Humble Retreat is to introduce guests to alternative holistic healing. After our gentle yoga class and a gratitude sharing circle it was a privilege to open up a discussion around Feng Shui Energetics. This talk was delivered by Kurly Marwaha who I met during my walking tour of the UK.
There are many holistic healing therapies in the world and I have only discovered a smidgen of those. For future retreats I’m looking forward to inviting specialists in alternative healing therapies to share their knowledge at future Humble Retreats.
We all need to heal after all.
Whether it’s from an ailment, a heartbreak, grief, stress at work, depression, anxiety, motherhood, fatherhood, marriage, relationships, losing a job, addiction…whatever it is, we are constantly in need of healing our head, our heart and our soul.
This need for healing never stops. We are never completely healed or recovered from an ordeal in life. There is never a magical “forever” fix. We know too well that we can be happy and then we can be sad. With this understanding and acceptance it is our responsibility to keep nurturing ourselves. Therapies, good company and nourishing activity are ways this can be achieved.
By 10:15am our bellies were making some seriously hungry groans and so we hurried back to the bunkhouse for a filling breakfast of oats, fruit, toast, yogurt, honey and homemade jams.
After fuelling up, the humble retreaters and I set off for an afternoon of exploring the Long Mynd which is exactly where the The Humble Retreat resides. Four hours of walking, talking, getting wet in the summer downpour, drying off in the summer sun, breathing in the fresh air, having moments of silence, eating a packed lunch by a waterfall, laughing, exploring, observing and enjoying we ended back at the bunkhouse for cake and tea and to relax.
The humble retreaters then observed a silent hour. The peace and quiet allowed for reflection time.
After this peaceful hour, humble retreaters were free to enjoy their own time to do as they pleased. Chatting in the kitchen, sitting in the sunshine, impromptu reiki and reflexology treatment.
The wholesome dinner was filling and satisfying after a long day of activity. Laughter filled the bunkhouse and just before bedtime at 9pm five guests committed to getting up with me at 5:30am the next morning for a sunrise walk to Caer Cadoc an hours walk from the bunkhouse. The other two humble retreaters were more than happy to swap the sunrise walk and honour themselves with a little lie in.
The sunrise walk was totally worth the alarm clock on a Sunday. It was brisk, fresh, quiet and beautifully sunny. The group of sunrise walkers and I sat at the top of the hill to watch the sun rising.
After breathing in every moment of the sunrise we made the hour journey back to the bunkhouse to join our fellow humble retreaters and my mum for a big breakfast and final sharing of our gratitude, intentions and reflections of the weekend.
It was a complete privilege and honour to host a group of humble retreaters who entered the bunkhouse as strangers and left as friends each experiencing something unique as a group and as an individual.
I am grateful to every humble retreater for being open. I am grateful to my mum for believing in the concept and for supporting The Humble Retreat (and making all the food!). I am grateful that the humble retreaters shared and created what became a magical weekend.
I am excited for the next Humble Retreat in September. I’m excited to welcome new humble retreaters. I am excited to experience something unique and special. I am excited to open up a safe space for humble retreaters to restore, explore and relax.
Spaces are still available for dates this year, so head here if you’re ready to join me.
The feedback The Humble Retreat in August received from the humble retreaters was completely…humbling. And I will let their words lead this post out…
“Thank you for an incredible weekend and improving my perspective on life and how to make the most of every day”
“Thank you Lizzie and mum! I really believe in what you’re doing and I really believe it will be successful, because of you! I have been most grateful for listening to and sharing so many experiences and hearing the courage to overcome difficulties”
“My biggest take away from the weekend is being able to be present and fully appreciate the task I am doing and what I am experiencing. I’ve been most grateful for Lizzie and Mandy who are the best hosts, the wonderful company, conversation and food!”
“The memories shared with such beautiful people, the laughter, the nature and the amazing food have made my weekend. Absolutely beautiful weekend. Keep doing what you are doing as you are awesome!”
“This weekend has reminded me to be kinder to myself, to switch off from technology and to walk more.”
“This weekend I have seen a glimpse of what I used to be…happy. Thank you for what you have given me, something that money cannot buy – happiness!”.
When I’ve had a dip in life or battled with a cycle of depression, everything seems totally out of reach. I can’t see clearly and my head feels as though it’s clouded with a heavy, damp, grey and thunderstorm ridden cloud. Nothing is easy. Nothing is worth celebrating. What’s the point?
During one of my particularly dark days, my mum once said to me “one step at a time”. This has been a mantra I regularly come back to. It’s kind and it’s gentle and it’s achievable.
“One step at a time” has allowed me to be grateful for all the small baby steps I have successfully made during a dip. Each of those baby steps represents a milestone and each milestone is a success and something that I am grateful for.
Whether it was pulling myself from my bed when I really rather stayed there, making myself a wholesome meal rather than sabotaging myself with a binge or a restriction, speaking to a friend and sharing my woes instead of pretending that everything was ok, dragging myself out for a run even if every inch of my body did not want to, smiling at a stranger even though I have wanted to hide, laughing out of enjoyment rather than out of force.
These all seem like pretty achievable tasks. But at the time, they were huge milestones. One step at a time I was moving forward into the light!
One step at a time applies to good times, bad times, and just the ordinary day to day.
Wherever we are in life we are hitting milestones every single day. We might forget to acknowledge them or show gratitude for achieving them – but they’re there! The small baby steps I am talking about are the ones you might think seem insignificant to someone else which might stop you from sharing or celebrating.
Remember, they are YOUR milestones. So celebrate and appreciate every single step towards each milestone. Whether it’s finally drawing the curtains after some dark days, saying what’s really on your mind, speaking up for yourself in a work environment, successfully arranging a date for friends to get together, or running 2 minutes longer than you did yesterday. Whatever it is, take one step at a time, and celebrate the milestones!
My first BUSINESS milestone happened yesterday, and I was so thrilled. After lots of talk from friends about booking to come to The Humble Retreat (which is a celebration in itself) I received my first official booking! The booking came from someone I haven’t spoken to in a while so I hadn’t even thought that they were interested. And even though setting up a business can be quite scary, I have complete faith in The Humble Retreat. I know the ticket sales will come, one step at a time. And each sale will be a milestone. And each milestone I will celebrate!